Irritable.  Cranky.  Ill tempered.  Old?

We often hear “crotchety old man or woman.”  Is that the destiny for ALL PEOPLE?  I see it all the time and it is one of my lifetime goals not to ever get that way.  Are they bored?  Is it engrained in the brain?  Are they going with the crowd?

Gossip and negativity and boredom and judgmental behavior can spread like wildfire.  However, the fire can stop with you.  Be the fire extinguisher.  Be the water.  Be something!  We all have bad days, but it’s only a day.  It’s not your life.  Wake up and smile and send out positive vibrations.

Pick up a new hobby.  Find your tribe.  Try a new food.  Try a new workout.  Do yoga.  Dance.  Take a walk in the sunshine.  Volunteer your time.  Smile at a stranger.  Step away from the crowd when something isn’t making you 1000% your best self.  It’s never too late…or too early.  

What is your tool to fight crotchetiness?

Whoopi Goldberg.  I peeped her on Harry Connick, Jr.’s talkshow briefly the other day talking about women.  She was talking about pms and cramps and it made me finish watching the segment.  She was talking about a product that I believe she has created to alleviate cramps…an all-natural topical cream or ointment of some kind.  Harry then asks “Well, can you describe the pain to me?”  She grins and the audience howls.  Picture your balls being pulled to the ground…Then stomped on…AND THEN rolled up into a rolling pin…she says.  He is speechless.

The days of my cramps being exactly like that are far gone, but the other symptoms are still there and it’s just dawned on me that I have more than PMS.  I believe I have PMDD.  I have thoughts of death.  I’m anxious, depressed, sad, angry.  Not fun!

Watching Whoopi gave a face to my feelings.  Women’s health is SO SO SO misunderstood.  Brushed off.  Looked at as dramatic.  Both by men and by women who have never experienced any of these things.  I have met these women and I am often jealous that they don’t have to deal with this.

So on today, INTERnational Women’s Day, I feel appreciated and I send my appreciation and love to ALL women on this planet Earth.  Be you.  All day.  Every day.  Your truth is a beacon of hope for other women.  Even if we all end up in the “period tent.”  I’m down!

Cheers!

SP 🙂

I’ve been MIA because I’ve been raising a baby, relatively alone.  Besides the help of my wonderful partner, it’s just her and I.  All. The. Time.

I feel crazy at times.  Like running away.  Like this is the last thing I want to do.  That’s why a TRIBE IS NEEDED TO RAISE KIDS.

Today, for example, we are both sick.  Her father has to work and we are home.  Miserable together.  I dream of a mom or some kind of someone to be available at times like these to help out.  In today’s society, that help almost always requires monetary compensation.  I once asked a family friend to watch her for one day for four hours.  I was asked if I was going to pay her.  Sigh.  Where are the days that people bartered time to help each other out?

I, more often than not, dream of living on an island with coffee, avocados, and like-minded friends, who help with baby-raising and home-schooling.  I often question why I don’t just settle for society’s standards like most people do.  I don’t want my daughter to do so either.

I am so blessed to have like-minded friends and often wish we could all be in the same place.  I’ve always felt misunderstood by the people who surround me.  I’ve always been one to speak about my feelings, thinking it’ll change outcomes.  When it doesn’t, I get discouraged.  What’s the point?

I often wonder how things are going to pan out as my daughter gets older.  I often find more companionship in strangers who I meet along my journey.  I’d love to hear from other moms and dads without tribes…

“I’m in love with people I’ve never met and places I’ve never been.”

 

 

INGREDIENTS

4 cups water

6 cups broth, chicken or vegetable

5 long green beans, diced

3 celery sticks, diced

3 parsley stalks, whole

6 cherry tomatoes, diced and seeds taken out

1 lb chicken, breast or tenders, chopped

1 clove garlic, diced

1 cup quinoa

4 potatoes, cut into eighths (I used red with skin on)

handful frozen peas

salt to taste

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  1. In a medium/large pot, mix water with green beans, parsley, garlic, chicken, celery, and tomatoes.  Bring it to a boil.
  2. Add broth and quinoa, and bring to a boil again.  Reduce heat and simmer for about 40 minutes.
  3. Add potatoes, peas, and salt.  Bring to a boil once again.  Reduce heat and simmer for 15 minutes.
  4. Turn off stove and let sit with a cover on for another 30 minutes for the flavors to develop.  Take out parsley as best as you can and serve.  You can also serve with parsley or scallions on top.

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Onesies.  Swing.  Baby bath.  Diapers.  Exer saucer.

Sure.  New moms need those.  (Well maybe not the bath.  Just take the one from the hospital for the first couple of weeks until the cord falls off.  Then bring babes in the shower with you.  Easier with spouse’s help and saves water!)  But not in excess.  Babies grow quickly.  Moms also could use things for themselves.  Here are my suggestions for the next mom-to-be in your life.

  1. Get mom a pregnancy massage.  These will make her feel like a million bucks and not to mention will make baby feel good too!
  2. Get baby some toys.  Come 6 months, baby needs stimulation and will get bored easily with what you have.  Think future gifts rather than right-at-birth needs.
  3. Ditch the baby shoes.  They are such a pain to put on, not good for babies feet, and are a waste of money.  Hand knit booties from abuela are always a good idea, however.  IMG_7767
  4. Gift cards.  These are always a great idea.  Mom can get what she or baby needs.  Try a store other than Babies R Us.  It might be a good initial one-stop-shop for accessories.  But it is expensive and, if you’re like me, doesn’t offer a huge range of organic and/or eco friendly options.  Try a zulily.com gift card where clothes made from organic cotton can be purchased or an amazon.com gift card where green toys can be purchased.
  5. COMFY ROCKING CHAIR WITH ROCKING OTTOMAN.  Nuff said.  This will be used for everything from breastfeeding, sleeping, eating, sleeping, breastfeeding.  Oh!  You may just never leave this thing.  I don’t have one, but when visiting a friend with two, I just love it!  If baby 2 is ever a thing, I will be making this purchase!
  6. Get mom a prenatal yoga membership.  In addition to the massage, this will calm mom’s nerves and, in turn, calm baby.  I did yoga throughout and had a less than two hour labor with no meds….for my first baby….just saying.  I accredit that to the calm pregnancy.
  7. Forget the nose bulb syringes.  They didn’t work for us.  We were recommended Nose Frida from a friend and it has worked wonderfully for us.  Side note-you DO NOT suck the boogers into your mouth.  You use your sucking strength but there is a barrier with a filter in between baby’s nose and your mouth.
  8. Get a cloth diaper monthly service for one month for mom to try out.  We tried idiaper which services New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut.  Although it didn’t work out for us, it is something that many people find works wonders and it’s earth-friendly. We ended up using disposables, now using Honest brand, and make our own wipe solution, with cut up cloth from t-shirts we weren’t using and baby washcloths that we were gifted at our baby shower.IMG_7765  We found that disposable wipes were giving baby rashes at the beginning.  Baby hasn’t had a rash in months and we do not use a cream at all daily.  Check out some of the recipes we use here.  Allow mom to find works for her and baby.
  9. Natural Nipple Butter by EarthMamaAngelBaby.  I used this at the beginning of our breastfeeding adventure and it is safe for baby to eat, main ingredient being olive oil.  Who wants to wipe off cream every time you need to feed?  It got us through the initial month or two of getting accustom to feeding and I never had mastitis or thrush.  Then I didn’t even need it.  Now I use it as a chap stick.  IMG_7768
  10. How about a baby toothbrush and toothpaste?  I recently purchased a dye and bpa free, made in the USA toothbrush with 100% vegetable bristles at Whole Foods.
  11. Bibs that are useful.  Most of the ones I got are made so that the circumference around the neck portion is too big.  My girl’s neck is tiny so they become useless when food drips onto her clothes even though she has a bib on.  Get ones that have snap closures and that have a few different snaps to adjust for size.  I like the Aden and Anais brand.  Not to mention, the muslin material is to die for.  The Tommee Tippee brand bib is also useful because there is a cushion that snugly fits under baby’s neck.
  12. Since it’s mom’s first baby, buy some books.  Books are great to read even to newborns.  Reading is so important!  I tell Phoenix’s daddy this frequently…like when he puts only a third of the amount of fruits a green smoothie calls for and he’s like “this is gross!”  Well…IMG_7766

I urge you to think outside the box.  Don’t get mom what everyone else will be getting.  I received a beautiful orchid at my shower and it’s still blooming lovely in my front window, even after I thought it was dead.

 

Pun intended.

Four different customer service reps.  Five different quotes.  What is the rhyme or reason?

Britney quoted $64.99 for internet up to 45 mbps download, plus a $100 installation fee.  It sounded like a reasonable price for that speed just for internet which we were happy about.  First we needed to cancel our existing service, so we hung up with Britney, promising to call her back.

An hour later, after canceling our existing service,  we called back and another rep for this company, Jay, could not locate the previous quote Britney had mentioned.  He claimed that we could get that internet speed only as part of a bundle.  So he offered a TV plus internet up to 45mbps download for $82.99 with installation free or just internet service for $49.99 up to 18mbps download plus $100 professional installation fee.

We were not giving up just yet.  We were determined to get that first offer that seemed good for our pockets so we called back for the third time to speak to a spanish speaking rep named Juan.  He claimed that his best and only offer was TV plus Internet up to 12 mbps for $72.99, installation free, and that at this address location they don’t offer internet speeds over 12 mbps.  This was his offer after telling him over and over that we don’t want TV, just internet.

By now, we were like “screw this company.”  Seems like any rep can make their own offer…but before that, we made one last attempt.  The fourth time we called another customer service line for the same company and this time around a rep named Austin picked up.  His offer was for only internet up to 45 mbps, installation free, for only $49.99.  So we finally went with Austin’s quote for just internet and not only did he give us the best offer, he also did not try to persuade us to keep tv, since we stated numerous times that we do not want cable.

This is crazy!!  Overall, we spent almost half a day calling this company just to somehow try to understand how their system comes up with different quotes every time.  But it is still confusing. You  would think an established company like that would have one system that each rep can refer to.  When asked what the final billing will be, no one knows.

You’re probably thinking as to why we chose this company after going through all this.  The answer is simple.  We only have two providers who offer tv and/or internet at our address.  One was $82.82 at 100mbps and the other $49.99 at 45 mbps.  The latter is more than enough for streaming, web browsing, blogging and even for work related business.

After all this, we still have yet to see how the service will work for us.  They’ll be here in a few days to install.  Until then… to be continued!  I still hope for a better option to be released in our lifetime.