We often hear “crotchety old man or woman.” Is that the destiny for ALL PEOPLE? I see it all the time and it is one of my lifetime goals not to ever get that way. Are they bored? Is it engrained in the brain? Are they going with the crowd?
Gossip and negativity and boredom and judgmental behavior can spread like wildfire. However, the fire can stop with you. Be the fire extinguisher. Be the water. Be something! We all have bad days, but it’s only a day. It’s not your life. Wake up and smile and send out positive vibrations.
Pick up a new hobby. Find your tribe. Try a new food. Try a new workout. Do yoga. Dance. Take a walk in the sunshine. Volunteer your time. Smile at a stranger. Step away from the crowd when something isn’t making you 1000% your best self. It’s never too late…or too early.
Whoopi Goldberg. I peeped her on Harry Connick, Jr.’s talkshow briefly the other day talking about women. She was talking about pms and cramps and it made me finish watching the segment. She was talking about a product that I believe she has created to alleviate cramps…an all-natural topical cream or ointment of some kind. Harry then asks “Well, can you describe the pain to me?” She grins and the audience howls. Picture your balls being pulled to the ground…Then stomped on…AND THEN rolled up into a rolling pin…she says. He is speechless.
The days of my cramps being exactly like that are far gone, but the other symptoms are still there and it’s just dawned on me that I have more than PMS. I believe I have PMDD. I have thoughts of death. I’m anxious, depressed, sad, angry. Not fun!
Watching Whoopi gave a face to my feelings. Women’s health is SO SO SO misunderstood. Brushed off. Looked at as dramatic. Both by men and by women who have never experienced any of these things. I have met these women and I am often jealous that they don’t have to deal with this.
So on today, INTERnational Women’s Day, I feel appreciated and I send my appreciation and love to ALL women on this planet Earth. Be you. All day. Every day. Your truth is a beacon of hope for other women. Even if we all end up in the “period tent.” I’m down!
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."
"Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?"
"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear."
"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."
"We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools."
"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend."
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
I'm glad we get a day to celebrate this man. He embodies everything that I stand for. I don't see the exterior when I look at people. We all bleed the same. We all cry. We all smile. We all love. We all fear. We all are trying to navigate this crazy world.
Humanity, however, has a long way to go. People are still persecuted based on religion, race, sex, sexual orientation. You name a difference and people are discriminated for it.
Think for a minute. What if we were all blind? We would connect on a soul level and this world would be extraordinary. Be extraordinary today and every day.
The story at the bottom and the pictures will evict any and all emotions out of your soul. Get a tissue. Get a whole box.
I can’t imagine my life without Phoenix. I can’t imagine my life without her, yet having to go through everything else that goes along with having a baby. The emotions must be crippling. This woman has enough strength for all of us.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I was stunned. What?! How the hell am I going to raise a baby? What about labor? Ouch! Is he or she going to be alright? I hope he or she has 10 fingers and toes. I hope he or she is healthy. I hope he or she sleeps. I HOPE I SLEEP. The thoughts running through my head were endless. This woman’s journey helps to put a halt to the negative thoughts and allow you to revel in the fact that a new life will be the result of all these changes to body and mind.
I admit. There are times when I long for my endless hours of sleep. For a Sunday in bed, just watching Lifetime. For a day where I don’t have to map out my shower, my hair, getting dressed, etc. For a day that Phoenix’s daddy and I aren’t both so exhausted we barely talk to each other.
But then we look at her and we instantly perk up. We instantly forget any reason to bicker. We snatch her up and give her kiss sandwiches. We see the sparkle in her eye and her beautiful smile when we smile at her. We hear her giggle when daddy is bouncing her up and down on his belly. We watch her sleep peacefully with her Simba or her sheep.
When they say you forget about all the nonsense when you look at your baby, they (whoever they are) are right. But what if you have all the nonsense, but have no baby to look at? It’s an emptiness that I don’t even think I can imagine.
I’d be a big ball of tears. I’d need counseling. I’d need 24/7 yoga, with tissues, with bouts of bawling seshes. I’d find comfort knowing that my mother would be taking care of my baby, along with all the other babies gone so suddenly. So, I say to you Natalie Morgan… Thank you. Thank you for your reality check. Eleanor is your angel. But she is also OUR angel.
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“Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment.”
Practicing mindfulness is imperative for our society. Everyone is constantly on the go. Work. Kids’ activities. More work. More kids’ activities. It’s easy to let time slip by and not check in to ourselves.
Checking-in will help to reduce stress by recognizing it and finding a solution. The constant adrenaline rush will no doubt lead to a body crash. To get out of that hole will require more than a “check-in.”
Meditation and yoga are good ways to practice mindfulness. These can be 5 minutes to 105 minutes. That’s the beauty of it. It is easily adaptable to everyone’s situation. Shoot. Meditate on the toilet. In the shower. Those things are not easily avoided…. I hope.
Checking in means to ask yourself what it is you are feeling…good, bad, happy, sad, angry, anxious…you name it. Then asking yourself if you know the cause. You got a promising job, your cat died last night, you won the lotto (ahhhh… i know we all wish…), your sibling is clueless to her nasty behavior, you’re a new mom (ohemgeeee…hello anxiety). The key now is to come to a calm place.
Stay in the now. Realize you can only control YOUR behavior, no one else’s. If needed, keep yourself away from certain people when they are acting up. Don’t go crazy with your lottery winnings…. 😉 Set up a nice goodbye ceremony for your pet and keep a memento for you to have good memories. Being sad is ok. Love your child. That’s really all you need to do. BREATHE.
Yoga also gets your body moving, which gets the feel good serotonin flowing. Why not kill two birds with one stone? Stretch/tone your body and practice breathing, both which will make you feel at ease. If you want to double the benefit…do it outside. Nature is a wonderful natural mood booster.
Yoga teaches you how to delve into poses that may put a (healthy) strain on certain parts of the body, holding those poses, breathing through them, then letting go. This transfers into your daily life right? Learning how to hold yourself in a certain situation then letting it go.
It blows my mind that this “trend” of mindfulness is only recently gaining steam. However, I guess it should be no surprise in a country where people “live to work” rather than “work to live.” I’ve always known that if you aren’t ok emotionally, how in the hell are you suppose to produce quality work? But, I guess I have always been an old soul too.
So I want you to take a break today. Relax. Recharge. Even if it is on your only 30 minute break that you get within your 8 hour shift. (Which is totally wrong and can be another post altogether).
Cheers to a productive week! Make it count and if something has weighed on you for a while now…it’s time to shit or get off the pot.
Lately I’ve had a lot of anxiety and sadness enter my head. My mother died when I was 22. We weren’t very close. My extended family isn’t as close as I’d like it to be.
Parenting is hard for anyone. I don’t have my mother around to help me. It’s even harder. But at the end of the day, like a few friends have told me, love is all you need. To be a great parent. A great friend. A great sibling. A great anything.
I jokingly say that if I have managed to keep my daughter alive each day, I’ve done my job. She’s been alive now for 100 days. 100 days of success for us!
The amount of love I have for her cannot be put into words. I tear up thinking about how much I want her to be exposed to all that life has to offer. I want her to find her niche. I want to bandage her scraped knees. I want her to have a thirst for life like I do. To know that the world is so big and she can see it if she so chooses. I want her to meet other souls that make her feel at ease. I want to talk about her good days and her bad days. I want her to wake up each day with a smile and desire to make the world a better place. I want to laugh with her and cry with her.
I panic sometimes when I think about not having a large support system. But when I remember all I have to do is love her, I calm down. I mean, how simple is that?! This huge adventure of parenthood is balled up into one thing….LOVE.